What is the cuckold fetish?
Historically cuckolding referred to the act of a wife cheating on her husband or committing adultery. In modern terms, it actually describes a sexual fetish in which the man gets off by watching his adulteress wife having sex with another man partner.
The concept of a cuckold goes back many centuries. The name cuckold comes from the cuckoo bird who tended to be a little slutty. Although cuckoo birds intended to mate for life, the female bird would often go and meet with other male birds and lay eggs in their nest.
Typically a cuckold is, when there is a married couple, man and a woman and the woman is cheating on the man with another man. That would make her husband a cuckold. This was a phrase used in common parlance. Nowadays, we don’t really refer to the guy as a cuckold in that same sense.
In modern day terms it refers to a fetish in which the male partner of the relationship is aroused by watching his wife or girlfriend have sex with other men. The person who holds the fetish is aware of his partner’s infidelity and derives sexual pleasure from the infidelity. Although cuckolds tend to be male, there are certain cases where females are cuckolds. These are known as cuck queens however this is very rare in fetish in relation to the cuckold world.
We use the cuckold term to describe the male with a particular sexual fetish or kink. When someone, specifically a man is sexually aroused by the idea or the actual act of their wife or girlfriend having sex with another man we refer to the man as a cuckold. In the sexual context a man who is into the cuckold fetish is generally very submissive. It’s not just that he wants his wife to go have sex with other people in a swinger type of relationship where both parties are very open. In a cuckold situation, it’s specially a humiliating position for the man to be in. Typically for many men this would be their worst nightmare. Typically you don’t want your wife cheating on you in theory. But in reality there are actually many men who do.
There are many different variations of the cuckold kink, fantasy or lifestyle. it could be the cuckold wants his wife or girlfriend to go have sex with other people or that she is cheating and she knows that he knows or doesn’t know that he knows but he is into it. Or it could be that they bring another man into the situation to have sex with her and the cuckold husband will watch. When it comes to the sex part, it varies from person to person how they like to enjoy this but it is common for the man who is the cuckold to really enjoy being with her in some way after her lover has been with her. Either having sex with her afterwards, which is a more mild version of cuckolding, right up to the point where some men enjoy doing the clean up work when her lover ejaculates inside of her and the cuckold has to perform oral sex on her, either on her vagina or her anus, depending on where her lover ejaculated. Cleaning up the lover’s cum is often referred to as a cuckold creampie. So the cuckold husband is forced to be humiliated by licking another man’s cum out of his wife or girlfriend.
In some extreme cuckold situations, the cuckold man won’t have any sexual contact with his wife or girlfriend and his wife will solely have sexual contact with other men depending on their arrangement.
What do you think makes a good cuckold?
Men who are passive, shy or don’t have the balls to be a real man make great cuckolds. Their girlfriends or wives start cheating on them and the cuckold boyfriend, or cuckold husband gets really excited about their partners cheating on him so he lets the situation continue because he’s sexually aroused by it. Often what happens in this relationship is the woman starts being more and more disrespectful to the cuckold boyfriend or cuckold husband, to the point where she is being a bitch to him all the time and showing no respect for him as a human being. Interestingly enough, the cuckold tends to enjoy that.
If you are into the cuckold fantasy or cuckold fetish, if you are in this situation, and the woman is treating you more and more like shit and you are sexually aroused by it, that makes sense because you are submissive.
You also have to think about her. Is she really happy cheating on you or is the woman just fed up with you and wants a real more masculine man.
This should be a consensual situation. The woman understands that you get off on this situation and you can negotiate the boundaries. It could be a whole cuckold lifestyle situation. Most men in this situation want a cuckold lifestyle change but don’t know how to bring it up to their partner and just naturally allows their wife to cheat.
One of the biggest factors in cuckolding is you have to have a partner who is willing to go out and sleep around because you might have a partner who does not want to do that. In a subculture related to cuckolding, though you would think the man would be the dominant telling his wife to go out and sleep with other men, it’s actually the other way around where the woman is the dominant in the relationship, and the male is the submissive.
Generally this isn’t a sort of threesome situation either. It’s really rare when couples who participate in cuckolding allow the actual significant other of the female to come in a join while she is having sex. It is not unheard of and it is permitted only if the female and the other male allow. Though the fetish of cuckolding is kind of wide range, it really narrows down that the cuckold is being humiliated in some sort of way which is what makes is much different than swinging or wife swapping.
Psychologically, they label cuckolding as a form of masochism. Whereas freud seems to feel that cuckoldism comes from fears of infidelity and the inability to win in a competition against other males. So basically, psychologically they just tell you that you are the fucked up one way or fucked up another.
There can be some concern regarding accidental pregnancy or things of that nature which can cause a lot of confusion if your wife whom you’ve given permission to sleep with another man got pregnant by said male. Precautions should always be taken.
Cuckolding is still one of the more taboo fetishes when discussing fetishes out there but it is becoming more and more mainstream as time goes on and it is being more widely talked about.